Our three part series of dealing with rejection on the dance floor is written to continually help not only newbies on the dance floor but veterans also. I’m sure there is great information out there so I just want to thank in advance for everyone who contributes their advice.
What to do when a girl says NO.
There are times I put myself in a certain mind frame when I’m on the hunt, I mean when I want to dance and meet a girl tonight. You got to have energy, charm, a positive attitude and of course a smile. Sometimes even when you want to dance, these essentials are not always at hand.
There could be many reasons why, perhaps you’re tired or depressed or just not having a good week. I don’t know but we can’t seem to make it happen. It’s ok if you’re not feeling it before you go out dancing. Just go out and these things may work its self out during the night.
I notice when I got all of these things working for me, I could deal with a no a lot better. Actually, a no doesn’t even affect me at all. I just keep moving forward and bam, let the cards fall where they are.
Here we go.
I’ll walk up to a table where the girl I want to dance with is. I’ll ask her to dance and she says no, I just act as it doesn’t matter. She knows you don’t really care and so do her friends at her table because your essence is obvious. I can’t really explain it.
How do I say it, when it’s on it’s on. You know it and everyone around you knows it. It’s just a state of mind which manifests itself to the whole dance floor.
I’ll just stand there next to her as if nothing happened, just keep moving and turn and ask a girl next to me. I say to myself, don’t take it personal. I don’t know what is going on in her mind. Maybe she just broke with her boyfriend or her mother is ill and her friends brought her out to put her mind at ease.
I don’t know but nowadays I don’t take a no personally. Just keep moving to the beat. Sometimes I’ll whisper something in her ear and let her know, I’ll be back. Either, she’ll give me a positive response or not. However, when it’s on it doesn’t matter, nothing matters, and everything just seems to fall in place because you’re in that zone.
What I mean is, when a guy decides he’s going to give it his best shot and even when it doesn’t go the way he hoped, he can look at himself in the mirror later and say to himself, I did my best. Besides, tomorrow is another day.
When you go out swinging, it could never be bad.
The scientific approach
Sometimes when I approach a table full of girls, I’ll time it and ask at just the right time. I’ll zero in at my choice and wait when one of her friends are texting a message or looking the other way, anything which is keep her distracted from me. With my hand extended, I’ll see if she reaches and takes my hand. If not, it’s ok because I’ll ask her friend sitting next to her.
Since she didn’t see me get rejected by her friend sitting next to her, there’s a strong possibility she’ll say yes. I’ll say most of the times she’ll say yes and when they do, some of the times the look of the first girl who said no is priceless.
She be like how did he pull that off. I’ll usually dance twice as nice and have us dancing right in front of their table so all her friends could watch. Also, the charm will be full effect and if the chemistry is right, I’ll pull her away and we’ll disappear into the dance floor. Sometimes the expression on the first girl’s face is like, wow, I could of had a v8.
Sometimes when I’m daring I go for a triple. I’ll wait when the timing is right. I pick my girl and wait for the perfect time. One friend is texting and the other has her head turned towards the band, someone else or talking to the waitress. Timing and speed is everything so it has to be done right. However, don’t get too hung up with science, sometimes you just got to dance.
Anyway, the right time and I step into action. If the first girl says no, I’ll quickly move to the end where the other is looking at the band and if she says no, I’ll wait few seconds as she takes her eyes off her cell phone. I’ll thrust myself forcefully but smoothly between her and my first pick and get very close.
By that time I have nothing to lose so I’m very daring. I’ll get very close to her and hold her hand and we are almost cheek to cheek. I lead her out to the floor.
It’s the triple threat.
Sometimes we can get too scientific about and get a little weird about it, salseros you know what I mean.
That being said, a little planning and execution isn’t a bad thing.