Life on the salsa dlist is a reality. Some dancers write you off and you may never have a chance to dance with them. There could be many reasons for this. It doesn’t have to be a dancer it can be anyone. This could either occur at a party, a club or a usual hang out of yours where all the regulars either know each other or are familiar with each other’s faces.
To keep it simple I’ll refer to this as a place where you regularly hang out. You could be at your regular club and have a dance with one person and for the next ten years that person will never ask you to dance again. There could be many reasons why but whatever it is, something happened for this person to never ask you to dance again.
Perhaps, it’s immaturity or a strong reason why. Actually, sometimes you never had a dance before but, he never asks you to dance. You see him around for years dancing with every girl in the place but he never once asked you.
It’s not as if you really care but it caught your attention.
Or, perhaps, you asked her to dance three times and every time she said no. Hey, three times and you’re out baby, I’m never asking you to dance again. I shall not be made a fool of. It could also be something you did to a friend of theirs and it displeased them, so they don’t want anything to do with you.
Also, misinformation, you know how people spread rumors and all the haters in the world.
I know a guy who never asks a girl to dance because she was critical of him when he first learned salsa. He would ask her to dance and right in the middle of the dance she walked out on him and said, sorry I don’t want to dance with beginners.
“She cold embarrassed me in front of everyone.” Two years later and he still didn’t ask her to dance, even though; they’re in the same salsa class. They dance during class but he never asks her to dance at a social.
I remember when I first started going to a certain club and I asked a girl sitting with her friends to dance she said no, I asked her again and a total of three times. Every time she barely looked at me. I have to say I didn’t ask her again. I really don’t think about it. Remember, I just keep moving on.
Same goes with guys, maybe you were rude with a friend or you bumped head with her sister. You may never know, it could be a legitimate reason or not.
This being said maybe it’s something negative about you. Maybe you’re doing something and you don’t even realize it or maybe you do and don’t care. Well, if you want to have success in the salsa world or life than you should seek worthy advice from others.
Evaluate yourself, talk to your salsa instructor and ask him to truthfully tell you of any comments regarding you from others. Many times the girls divulge their feelings about others to them. Talk to a fellow salsero and ask if he sees anything about you. Seek constructive criticism and you will find. You’ll find answers you were looking for or never even thought of, in other words enlightenment.
Most of all don’t let your pride get in the way. Pride comes before destruction.
I remember dancing with a girl who I thought we had nothing in common. She didn’t want to dance and the time we did dance she walked out in the middle of the song. Around six months later we danced again and it was lovely this time.
She told me it was a difficult year, he father died and she felt guilty dancing and was mourning her dad’s death her own way.
Like I said, don’t take it personal, you never know what’s going on in a person’s life.